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Thursday, July 22, 2004

Myths About Men

Found this here on MSN.  Purely a subjective thing and I don't agree with all of it.  It does make an interesting and humorous read though.  On the other hand, comments like these could put male/female relationships back 50 years. 

1. Men are not interested in what women have to say
"Men are interested in what women have to say," countered Chris, 27, "as long as it involves one of the following: Our favorite sport, our favorite activity or your naked body. For example, many men would find it extremely interesting if a woman said, 'A couple of years ago, I got so drunk that I showed up nude to a football game.'"
Let's be honest, people talk about topics you're interested in or topics you're not interested in.  Attention varies between levels of interest.  Of course the key is finding a woman who has interesting things to say about things that may not be of interest to me.

2. Men want somebody who is just like their mother
"Men do want somebody who will love them like dear old Mom," admits Eric, 42. "But sometimes Mom also annoys us; we don't want you to be like that. So love, nurture and spoil like her — just don't be her."
No way!  I love my mom, but I certainly don't want a significant other to be like her.  No Oedipus behavior from me.

3. Men only think about sex
"Well, yeah," says Paul, 34. "Thinking about sex takes up a good portion of our brain power, but we don't spend all of our free time pondering when we'll make our next move." Paul also adds, "There are actually plenty of women who are more interested in sex than we are."
I disagree.  Most men are capable of multitasking.  We can think about sex and...umm...something else at the same time.  Someone help me out here, what else can I be thinking of?

4. He's spoiling me, so he must have plenty of money
"No, I don't," assures Brady, 49. "I'm going a little outside my comfort level to woo you, but plan to return gradually to my normal level as you fall, hopefully, madly in love with me."
Okay, if trinkets are the key to your love that isn't a good sign.  That being said there is nothing wrong with expressing your feelings with some heartfelt gifts.  The unexpected flowers can invoke a very nice smile.

5. If I sleep with him on the first date, he won't respect me
"Not necessarily," suggests Juan, 21. "My impression of you is based more on how you treat me and how we connect than whether or not we're intimate on the first date."
Nothing I say about this one will be construed in any good way.  I'll just say nothing now.

6. I can change him
"No, you can't," replies Jacques, 30. "Oh, you might get us to behave differently for a while. We might wear some newer shirts or clean up after ourselves for a few weeks, but I'm only doing it because I want to do — at least that is what I'm telling myself."
This is a problem between the sexes, though mostly exhibited through women IMHO.  If you view the partner as a fixer-upper then you've already lost the battle.  The questions isn't "Can I fix him up?" it is "Can I take him as he is?"

7. Men are interested in my dating history
"I couldn't care less about your sexual history," says Thomas, 19. "I don't care if you've had one or 20 partners; just don't tell me about any of them."
Except for Dante in 'Clerks', this kid is right.  What is in the past is in the past.  As long as you don't openly compare us to some ex we don't care what you've done in the past.
Okay kid, if anyone you're dating has already had 20 partners just whip out the hazmat suit right now.

8. Men don't like women who make the first move.
"Sure we do," returns Romero, 39. "It's less work for us and shows us you have good taste."
Since my 'interest radar' has numerous leftover, rusted out commie parts in it, if you do have an interest in me please let me know.  If men and women are truly equal, then there is no problem with her making the first move.  Part of the problem is that society has taught the traditional gender roles of man/aggressor and woman/non-aggressor.

9. Men prefer inexperienced women
"That's one of the great myths," admits Chuck, 52. "In reality, we'd rather be with someone who knows what they're doing."
This is also like #5, nothing I could say will be construed in any good way.  I'll just shut up.

10. Men are strong
"No," assures Michael, who just turned 40. "We're babies, especially when we've got a cold or you break our hearts.
Babies, nah.  Of course if I'm having a cold or a broken heart or both at the same time I am definately feeling miserable!  How do you want to measure 'strong' anyway?  Strong, silent type?  Capable of handling any problem by himself?  Bleh, stupid myth if you really think about it.

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